I use to feel ashamed of my past or things that I've done... I use to beat myself up over mistakes that I made and choices that could have been avoided. I don't beat myself up anymore because those choices can't be undone but they taught me some valuable lessons. Conviction is a good thing, consistent guilt isn't though... We abuse grace by not only doing the same things over and over then crying to God and asking for forgiveness but we abuse it by beating ourselves up over stuff he already forgave us for! He's forgotten it, he's cleansed you yet YOU'RE still harping on it! You can't undo your past and that's just life so stop beating yourself up over what you DID because it's DONE. I know girls who have children out of wedlock and may feel guilty but I'm like for what?! It's a million out here in action they just aren't pregnant. People make mistakes, we all make choices that we sometimes regret. What I won't do is bash another for choices they've made in the past. Now here is where accountability comes in, you ready?! Say that you have 3 kids outside of marriage and you give your heart to Christ after you have them... God forgives, he washes, he cleanses and now you have to walk with him. This is not a permission slip for you to go and get pregnant with a 4th one outside of his will. Yes he forgives BUT how can you grow and change if you keep having sex outside of marriage and outside of God's will? The bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:18-19 KJV
 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.  What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
So when you were in the world having sex wasn't an issue, people didn't make a big deal because well you were in sin. Since we are Christians we follow God's word, correct? So we have to be INTENTIONAL about honoring his word! Just because people choose to skip around the bible and Cntrl, alt, delete doesn't mean you need to...I've been celibate for a few years and it is difficult!! Don't let people lie to you and make you feel like having those feelings aren't normal because guess what? You're human! That's why you need friends who are on this walk with you, you need friends who support your lifestyle change. You need people to uplift, encourage and help to lead you in the right direction. You don't need to be around women who aren't practicing what they preach point blank, they're stumbling blocks! I spent the first year or so of my walk without friends unfortunately because there weren't any 24 year olds wanting to just be celibate or walk with Jesus around me! This was before Pinky Promise, before following Heather's ministry and I was a wreck. I got baptized at 22 but I didn't have friends who would say girl turn that music off or don't read that! Or friends who said let's pray, let's just take some time and study God's word... Recently God revealed to me that I am now to be that FRIEND to women who are in that phase of life that I was in. We need accountability because many are out here doing whatever and shouting on Sunday. If nobody told you that when you walk with Christ that you must die so he can live then they've done an injustice to you! You have to give up some stuff, some people and some habits. My prayer every morning is simple: More of you and less of me God. Do I stumble? Heck yes! That's where his grace comes in and he corrects me because he loves me... I trust him to lead me. You want to change??? Ask him right now for change! It's not easy but it's worth it. I love y'all!!!